In over my head...

Ok, home has 14 speakers total wired to a home run - not terminated right now. Could be 3 to 5 zones depending on how we carve it up. I also have 2 x cat5 runs to 5 TV sites with wall mounted 1080p capable TV's. I have coax to the 2 physically distant TV runs, and some type of monstrous HDMI cables without termination to 3 locations. No receivers, no video sources right now, and unfortunately no clue. I also have a standard PC - Server rack in the closet, waiting to get mounted and terminated.
 
The budget to have this done "for me" ran out the window in March.
Right now, I need to efficiently terminate my cabling to just get organized, and dont know what is out there to just do basic cable management. I also dont want to terminate all the CAt5 into a patch panel if it needs to be mounted differently later to carry the HDMI signals. also confused that if I use CAT5 for HDMI, I no longer have CAT5 for IR / zone audio control unless I run more.
I have been told HDMI can run on the 2x cat-5, and I dont need the HDMI cables at all. Also been told that I should go "directv" with 5 x HD receivers and RF remotes for my video inputs and zone controls. But for the audio zones and inputs, it loks like IR connected to a cat5 is the best available option for the $.
Has anyone ever seen a basic cabling setup like this, and have a recommendation on how to just get organized or a plan of action?
My dream would be 4 zones for the audio. then inputs would be 4x HD Directv receivers - (one split to 2 TVs) a DVD player, a PS3, a CD player / radio, and a generic PC or Apple based media server.
How do I lay the foundation to get there, and what will it need to bring this together?
Appreciate any input or advice available. Every local "expert" has taken my time, my money, and no one has a straight answer.
thanks in advance for anyones guidance here.